Published March 31, 2025

Imagine me as a mall sign: You are here [ ^ points upward ^ ]. Look up there. It’s International Transgender Day of Visibility. Many thanks to all who have it written on their calendar.

If you don’t know what it is, there’s a lot online about it, but here’s a good place to start.

Here are some different perspectives:

Parker Malloy: Navigating Trans Day of Visibility in Trump’s America.
Katelyn Burns: Well… It’s Trans Day of Visibility… again
Charlie Jane Anders: I Took a Break from Being Publicly Trans. Then I Came Back Stronger.

And this:

It really is a bitter pill. Many people DO NOT KNOW.

Today is also Buy a Trans Woman a Pizza day.

It’s that time again; 3rd annual Mira Bellwether Buy A Trans Woman A Pizza Day is Monday, March 31st.

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— Callan Bellwether (@sleepytimetbear.bsky.social) March 16, 2025 at 9:53 AM

Outside the (pizza) box: If you buy a pizza for a trans man or for a nonbinary person, or for someone gay or straight or pansexual, I don’t think anyone will be upset with you. A pan pizza would be great for at least one of those, I’m pretty sure. (A pun pizza would probably be best for me. Yikes.)

Oh, and Easter doesn’t fall on Trans Day of Visibility this year like it did last year. Still hoping The New York Times frames it correctly when it happens again 61 years from now.

Keeping it short (this story, not my hair)

My energy level is still low. I still sleep at least 12 hours a day. I’m not up to saying more about the state of things in this country. I’m spent on all of that. I’ll let others do the talking at the very bottom of this post.

Today, I’ll spend money on getting my hair done. If it turns out great, I might update this post with a photo.

(Like that.)

I’m still planning to grow it as long as I can. Tomorrow, I’ll spend money on a windshield replacement — perfect for added visibility from the trans driver’s seat. It’s one of the few things I have any control over, and I’m going to be glad to check that off my list. I found out it will cost me only $100 thanks to my insurance, which was great news. It’s probably a good idea to do that before a windshield costs $2,000 or before President Musk eliminates the Federal Reserve and the U.S. dollar and converts us to a cryptocurrency-based financial system.

I don’t have much more for you. For once, I’ll keep it short.

‘Free’

This is what it’s all ultimately about for us: being free to be who we are.

I am going to segue into a song that you probably didn’t see coming. It’s largely about anxiety, which I can relate to, and other things that I can relate to. If you listen, try to watch the video and pay attention to the onscreen information before and after.

Anyway, here we are. It’s International Trans Day of Visibility at the beginning of an already brutal Trump administration. Visibility is risky for us. Existing is risky for us.

Is this how it is?
Is this how it’s always been?
To exist in the face of suffering and death
And somehow still keep singing

Or, for me, mostly, to somehow still keep writing (although I just bought a guitar for the first time since 1981). And since we’re asking questions, here’s a teaser about a story I wrote that’s scheduled to be published April 5. Rather than ask if this is how it is, that one will ask, “Is that all there is?”

Somehow still keep singing? Still keep writing? Or do I want to call it off?

But there is nothing else that I know how to do
But to open up my arms and give it all to you

Can relate, Florence. I’m giving them all I’ve got.

♥

Thank you for reading

If you appreciate what you find here and feel generous, you can check out the Tip Jar. Sorry this one’s a mess. I struggled with how to put it together. It took me way too long to write it. Thanks for reading it. Here’s a butterfly for you.

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Featured image of a calendar square by Alena Ivochkina via Shutterstock.

Where we also are

Such a perfect and pure expression of the contemporary white supremacist Christian nationalist mindset. There are legitimately people in this government now who think we’re in a holy war against invaders from inferior races, and that it’s God’s will for us to push them out.

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— Deirdre Assenza (@deirdreassenza.bsky.social) March 30, 2025 at 10:02 AM

Kamala Harris received 48.3 percent of the popular vote. Trump received 49.8 percent. Don’t try to tell me that “America voted for liberation,” you fucking monster. Voter suppression alone, aided by the 2013 gutting of the Voting Rights Act, was enough by itself to bring about this result, but so much more evil conspired to ensure it.

Those who made it all the way to the end get to see my hair from behind. It’s a bit brassy the farther down you look, but I’m fine with that, and I love the curls. My stylist Tyler’s the best.