Published February 16, 2025
There’s nothing left in the tank. Every day there’s too much going on for me to give you updates. Maybe you’re aware of the big picture, maybe you aren’t, but things are bad.
Especially for trans and nonbinary people. It will get worse for everyone else.
If you’d like to keep up, the people and their websites below will take care of you. Please support them if you can. They are doing work that I can’t do right now.
My blogroll on the home page and the sidebar of each page has got you covered for other types of content.
I will continue to add to this list when I have the energy. If you want to know things before they hit traditional media outlets, I recommend creating an account on Bluesky Social and following all of these people and people they follow. Otherwise, you’ll fall far behind.
And I suppose I should warn you: If you live in the Trump/Musk/Vance/Fox/Breitbart/etcetera bubble, you might be shocked at what’s really going on.
If you’ve heard about all those 150-year-olds receiving Social Security and you believe that, I might be talking to you.
Correct. If the birthdate field contains corrupt or mismatched data, it defaults to 1875-05-20, which serves as a flag. May 20, 1875, is the day the international standards and metrics treaty was signed. Everything is a conspiracy when you don’t know how anything works.
— Karly Kingsley (@karlykingsley.bsky.social) February 14, 2025 at 9:53 PM
Do I sound bitter? You’d better fucking believe I’m bitter. And mad. And struggling to tell you how much I’m struggling.
Anyway, on with the thing.
Transgender news
Katy Montgomerie (YouTube)
Current events and history
As I said, the blogroll has other links you should check out.
A little bit of everything
And for inspiration
“We’re not going anywhere. What’s more: we’re expanding.”
Nearly a dozen of Minnesota’s foremost experts on gender-affirming care collaborated on this beautiful op-ed in today’s Strib. No paywall.
— Stacey Burns (@wentrogue.bsky.social) February 15, 2025 at 11:17 AM
I’ll continue to update the list when I’m able. If you want to be added, please use the Contact form to send me a note. Thank you.
A bonus
I wrote about the worst people in the world, charting the depths of their depravity and vastness of their incompetence, and offered some thoughts about the opportunity presented by their failure to acknowledge reality and their refusal to access any form of human virtue.
www.the-reframe.com/the/
— A.R. Moxon (@juliusgoat.bsky.social) February 16, 2025 at 6:29 AM
One more bonus
A trans woman sent this message to me. I wanted you to see it.
Hi Carly –
I saw your post today about your tank running dry, and wanted to reach out, just to say something.
As a preface, in your piece in January about your experience following the acquisition of The Athletic by the NYT, you had a line that jumps out to me:
I spent two months trying to build the one sentence that makes people realize I am a person, that I matter. Somewhere between one sentence and dozens, I hope there are at least a few words that elevate me from political talking point to human being.
I don’t know you, but you are my sister, and I am facing a similar struggle now. I want to summarize my many feelings – to acknowledge the battles we face right now as trans women, to shout about the value of trans life, and assert my genuine desire to help you keep fighting – but I have to balance that with the reality that I don’t know you personally, and that I can very well imagine any kind of outreach feeling ignorant of your circumstances and inauthentic…
So at the very least, please know that I have much to say, and want to offer my support, but I am erring on the side of (relative) brevity…
I hope that you stay. I think you should stay.
There are people who are fighting against us. There are people who are fighting against themselves through us. And of course there are people who are completely unaware of our fight. All of these people are fucking ignorant. They will never know the joy and the inner peace that we’ve cultivated for ourselves by seeking, claiming, and then assembling our identities. They are simply lost. I don’t think most of them will find their way to anything meaningful.
And of course there are the (fewer) people who convince others to fight us in order to gain power from the artificial fervor. They find those lost people and steer them from group to group. These people are sociopaths. You are worth more than all of them put together.
Transition taught me so much about love. I love myself, and from your posts it seems like you love yourself, too… You certainly should. You fought for yourself in order to get to this place, and it’s such a beautiful thing. And around the world, across time there have been so many of us who have done the same thing. There’s this beautiful tapestry of lives that exist because at some point we each loved ourselves enough to become the people we knew we should be.
I know things are so hard right now. And I can’t imagine how difficult your specific circumstances are. But in the midst of it there’s so much joy. At the risk of being callous by making any recommendation at all right now, I hope that you might be able to consider engaging in trans art. For myself, I had been in a haze since the election, and then read an 800+ page book about trans people written by a trans author in the UK, who is channeling her anger into some of the most thoughtful, hilarious, and meaningful (to me) fiction I’ve ever read. It pulled me out (and I think did the same for a lot of our sisters on Bluesky).
Anyway, I’m rambling. I hope you can get through this. I’m just one American, and I’m currently living halfway around the world, but if I can help in any way, please let me know.
I mean, wow. This deserves a better response than my brain can come up with right now, but I didn’t want that to stop me from showing you. Such a beautiful sister.
Grateful cry, sorrowful sigh
No one in my family has come close to saying things like that to me in the seven-plus years since I came out, nor have they given me any indication they have tried to educate themselves about us. It’s little wonder trans women mostly stick together in this world, I have come to conclude.
That’s all for now. I am having problems forming sentences. I’m terribly broken.
Sending love.
♥
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